How would you grade your mate?

You want to get an understanding on where you are in your relationship with your mate? If you're fighting to keep your relationship alive, bored, tired of being tired, and can't let go of past hurts that was endured upon you, here's why:

Start viewing your relationship as a college letter grade. Yes, a college letter grade. I know that doesn't sound logic based on how the college's grading systems are based on units, hours, and/or a numbering system, but bare with me for a minute and catch where I'm going with this.

In the beginning of every relationship, both mates starts of with an "A+" and its up to each mate to maintain that grade. Just how it's so easy in college for your grade point average to drop, same way goes for relationship. Understand that feelings get hurt, trust gets tampered with, true colors start to emerge from the black that you cover up with, and we tend to allow others to interfere with our college (relationship) experiences.

It's hard trying to bring your grades back up, but it's very possible.
Here's how:
1. Take the time to hear your mate out, completely. Let her/him vent as much as possible. Really listen in and ask questions, even if his/her response is hurtful unto you. Allow your mate to get that frustration out.
2. Show as much appreciation and gratitude towards your mate as you possibly can through your words, through adventures; text them randomly letting them know how much you truly appreciate their love and forgiveness. Buying gifts, taking them places, and continuous spending only takes away the pain for that moment before something triggers their anger. Gratitude changes everything.
3. Go back to the things you two used to do. You know, those things you two did that made you fall so deeply in love with each other. Do more and more of that. Make him/her smile and laugh more, do something fun and adventurous, and take a trip on the wild side. Don't get too wild now.

With these methods, your grade will rise. Your relationship will get grander. You two will go back to being a dynamic duo. It may even start traditions, love patterns, and other great relationship things.